Healing Our Hoity-Toity Habits

Mar 12, 2019 by

Healing Our Hoity-Toity Habits

When I use the expression “hoity-toity,” I intend it to describe someone with a pompous self-important attitude.

You know what I’m talking about… when the waiter looks down his nose and sniffles at you because you ask what flambe means.

Or the doctor gives you the fake, ridiculing smile as if to say, “Who’s the doctor here, me or you?”

Or when your new mother-in-law looks you over up and down, sighs deeply, turns to your new beloved one, shakes her head a little and, with raised eyebrows, says, just loud enough for you to hear, to your new companion, “Oh well,” and walks away without a word, a smile, or a how do you do?”

You noticed, didn’t you? That all these references are about other people, not me, of course.

However, in all honesty, I have been known to pull out my best high handed, snooty routines, usually in response to someone else’s behavior toward me.  For example, when I meet someone I haven’t seen in a while and they say something like, “Are you okay?  You look a little tired.”

My imaginary response is to pull out a tissue from my purse, wipe a little invisible spot off their cheek, as if to say, “Sweetie, you must really learn how napkins work.”  Snark!  Snark!  Then, walk away, head held high.

Or when I have decided that someone acts as if they are so much smarter than I am that they are somehow diminished by having to deal with me, my silent imaginary response goes something like this,

“Oh yeah, well, I (with emphasis on the word I) can diagram compound and complex sentences perfectly, and not only can I spell onomatopoeia, I know what it means! And not only that, I know all the words to “Cry Baby,” by Janis Joplin.  So there!”

Then I imagine flipping my hair back, turning with a dismissive wave, and sultrily sauntering away as if I were 5’10” and weighed only 120 pounds.  (If only!)

When I catch myself acting like the Queen of the Ball, I forgive myself immediately and do all I can to be kind.  When I don’t catch myself in the moment, it comes up later for me to deal with in prayer by forgiving myself and others and setting a new intention to be much more conscious in my interactions.

TODAY I WILL BE AWAKE TO ALL THE HOITY-TOITY HABITS IN MYSELF AND OTHERS.  I COMMIT MYSELF TO BEHAVING WITH KINDNESS, COMPASSION, AND AN UNDERSTANDING HEART.

Edwene Gaines, P.O. Box 125,  Valley Head, AL  35989

Author of the books:

The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity

I Choose Forgiveness, Amazon Kindle

 

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